5 Things You Should Know About Your Partner’s Past (But Should Never Ask)

Whether They’ve Ever Hurt Anyone

This one is heavy. You don’t need to pry into every mistake they’ve made, but you should have a sense of whether they’ve ever done something truly harmful—cheating, abuse, manipulation, or betrayal. People can change, but they have to own what they did first. If they’re evasive, defensive, or dismissive, that’s your answer.